As I mentioned previously, my ex was not good in bed. He could swing a mean hammer and was truly great in a crisis, but sex was really not his forte.

The funny thing was, even though I'd slept with other men before him, I used him as my basis for comparison for everyone I slept with after he left the scene. For a while I even avoided getting naked at all because I didn't want to have shitty sex. You'd think I would realize that one 18-year-old who was a virgin when we got together would not be an indication of the sexual abilities of an entire gender, but no.

By the time I got together with my current partner, I was absolutely desperate to get laid. He, on the other hand, was a waiter. (Not like a food server. Like one who waits. Specifically, one who waits for sex.) I had never encountered this before — I was thin and had good hair! I drank beer out of the bottle! I wore leather pants! Who wouldn't want to sleep with me?

Everyone from the girl in the cubicle next to me to my own mother was convinced he was gay. I later found out his mother believed the same thing, so I guess they were in good company.

Eventually I got him drunk enough that his inhibitions were lowered but not so drunk that he couldn't perform, which appeared to do the trick. I wonder, though... how many people does this happen to? It goes so far against what we believe to be true about men. Then I think, if we have all of these stereotypes about them which turn out to be wrong, can we really blame them for having stereotypes about us?