Great comments, CM! Megan, I know exactly how you feel. My husband moved out last month after almost 24 years of marriage. We took our vows in church *twice* - at our first wedding in a Baptist church and again in the Catholic church when I converted. When I learned the jerk was cheating on me, I gathered as much info as I could. When I found his apartment lease in his briefcase, I was prepared (although he never actually told me about it...I heard it from a relative when she called to say how sorry she was to hear about it; luckily I already knew and was not blindsided). When all of this was first happening, I was terrified that I couldn't support my children and myself on my income (I'm self-employed). But I knew I could get a full-time job if I had to (as much as I hated the idea). (He's giving me a fair amount of financial support, so that fear is mostly gone.) But I did finally realize this: I don't want a man who doesn't want me, and I'm glad he's gone. His skank thinks she's won a "prize"; she'll find out soon enough just what a prize he is. (I may even send her a thank you note some day.) I don't know your circumstances, and they are probably not really relevant. I DO want you to know that if you end your marriage, you WILL be just fine, and so will your kids. (They see and know much more than we give them credit for, even at young ages.) You CAN do this and you WILL get through it with your dignity in tact (whether you choose to end your marriage or your husband chooses to end it for you, as mine did). I know I deserve better; and you do too. (I now have reason to believe he's been involved with this woman for 2-3 years; I wish I'd kicked his *ss to the curb years ago.) Blessings to you, my dear.